Yesterday night, I sat in my living room, surrounded by books and Evernote until 2:43 am.

I was writing down goals, new projects and fears I need to overcome in 2018.

Don’t worry, this won’t become some generic “you need goals to be successful” post.

In fact, it’s more the opposite.

I’m on my 4th reading of “The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A Fuck” by Mark Manson.

In the book, he talks about how hardship, struggle, anxiety and fear are part of accomplishing anything.

When you want to accomplish something, obstacles appear. This is a fact—don’t keep reading if you disagree.

If you’re reading this, you’re an ambitious person. You’re seeking out a blog to learn something.

The fact that you’re willing to learn tells me you have some goal, something you’re working towards—which you feel I can help with (and that honors me).

Now, whatever your ambitions are, the road to get there is filled with obstacles, as we discussed.

The way to accomplishing anything is full of obstacles.

So if you’re going to struggle anyway, why not struggle for something great?

By doing anything, you invite the pain that comes along with it.

Would you rather go through all the pain for an arbitrary societal standard?

Or suffer through the hardship to make a change?

You don’t get around pain. It’s a constant.
It sucks, yes.

But you can give your pain meaning.

So don’t seek out “goals”, seek out meaningful pain.

My 2018 goal setting included listing all the pain I’ll have to suffer through. And I mean it.

Do it. List all the fear and pain you’ll suffer through after setting goals for the next year.

At the end of your fear and pain list, write “I invite these” and close the document.

You won’t feel anything more liberating.

-F